Growing up in Florida, specifically just outside of Tampa, I never felt like I was in the "in-crowd." I spent my younger life growing up in the suburbs and amongst my slightly extended Afro-Cuban family. Our go-to family meals were picadillo and congri, and our go-to afternoon television programming was the same as the rest of the United States. My experience with my African American culture was not unique from anyone else. School and TV supplemented my knowledge in the area. No one person taught me to be critical about race, but rather through a series of unique but similar life experiences, I became enlightened.
"Catering to me based on my skin color is not the goal, instead of considering talking to someone about their interests and not assuming their experiences."
You don't realize how much you have in common with someone until you try. I shared my "intro to tech" story back in 2019 on a panel for an after-work event in Silicon Valley. I fielded questions from the predominantly white audience asking how they could make their work environments more inclusive, citing that they do not have experience with African-American culture. My response was, "My culture is your culture," catering to me based on my skin color is not the goal, instead of considering talking to someone about their interests and not assuming their experiences.