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🎄 Cheers to 2023. Big plans for 2024
December 31, 2023
Hello friends, thanks kindly for your support in 2023. Next year, we’re going to: compile and curate 24 essays on stuff you’ve thought a lot about in 2024....
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about whether I’ll ever have sex again
December 24, 2023
It's been 4 years, 3 months and 11 days since I did some squat thrusts in the cucumber patch. Since I bumped uglies. You know? Engaged in a bit of bedroom...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about the parts of myself I’ve ignored
December 23, 2023
To my treasured daughters. I want to talk about the importance of asking yourself difficult questions and being brave. Society doesn’t always promote these...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about grief
December 22, 2023
My Mum, Joan, died suddenly alone at home on Sunday 27 November 2022 watching TV, cup of tea in hand.She was discovered by my sister and her husband the...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about kindness
December 21, 2023
Last year, I was standing at a bus stop in the rain without an umbrella. I’d not predicted, when I left home in a rush, that it was going to rain. My bus was...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about if the childless owe less to the planet
December 20, 2023
When did I give up caring about the planet?Until 2023 I was always the person who cared. I was the person who would struggle home juggling her shopping in...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about dress codes
December 19, 2023
It all started when I saw a tweet (that I can no longer find) that said something along the lines of ‘I just received a wedding invite where the dress code...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about early menopause
December 18, 2023
I’m always early for things. I was once so early for a job interview that the time between my arrival and the interview starting was longer than the...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about charity shops
December 17, 2023
I have to confess that I'm addicted to charity shops, and the thrill of finding a unique, wearable wonder at a bargain price is the driving force behind this...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about my Nokia 6680
December 16, 2023
You’re not supposed to have this stuff lying around. It’s digital waste, unnecessary clutter, some sort of data protection risk. But I’m not ashamed to tell...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about naked men
December 15, 2023
The relationship with my own nudity is not one I intended to explore this year, or probably ever. And I would’ve gotten away with it too, if it weren’t for...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about having a business and a baby
December 14, 2023
Business and baby.Two words we so rarely hear together I hardly dare utter them in the same breath. But as a business owner and a mother I have been...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about eggs
December 13, 2023
Soft boiled and dippy.Sunny side up.Scrambled. Buttery, salty, and creamy.Oocyte. Egg cell. Ovum. My own eggs inside of me. 2023 was the year I froze them....
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about being a rockstar
December 12, 2023
I started playing guitar when I was a little boy. Our family always had one propped up in the corner of the living room and although she never played it for...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about an old friend
December 11, 2023
It’s strange how people come and go from your life. Just think how many you have known. Some for a long time, some a short while. Some you form a deep...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about loneliness
December 10, 2023
My sister is worried about me. I know that because she just sent me a text. “Just ringing to check in as I’m worrying about you.” I missed her call.I haven't...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about my wicked stepmother
December 9, 2023
In April this year, I saw you.I was sitting outside a coffee shop, and as I glanced up from my laptop, there you were. I don’t know if you saw me, but if you...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about Lego Star Wars
December 8, 2023
In 2023, my mind has been consumed by the Lego Star Wars universe. I suspect you’re itching to read about a more meaningful captivation but here we are: my...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about the friend who’s sad I’m single
December 7, 2023
Hello love,How are you getting on? How are the kids? I know it must be a bit overwhelming now that you’ve got two and I hope you know you can always come to...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about my inner child
December 6, 2023
It’s sad that we stop playing when we grow up. We leave school and get jobs and then work forever. We must be serious and professional to ‘make it’. And the...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about my Abaji, the greatest storyteller and listener
December 5, 2023
My grandfather was the greatest storyteller. We think it’s because he crafted a big, extraordinary life for himself, weaving his painful and difficult...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about money
December 4, 2023
In 2023, I thought a lot about money. I didn’t just think about it though: I dreamt about it, I worried about it, I panicked about it.My body and brain...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about caregiving and my love life
December 3, 2023
This year I jumped back into the dating pool and sighed, swiped and rolled my eyes at vest-clad men presenting giant fish; cigar-sucking men on yachts;...
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about choices
December 2, 2023
I kept a bright yellow click counter near me most months this year. It looks like a knock-off Tamagotchi with a small LCD screen and a big silver button....
🎄 In 2023, I thought a lot about my employer’s BS approach to diversity and inclusion
December 1, 2023
Dear employer,I need to talk. You need to listen.It feels cheeky to tinker with Professor Kimberlé Crenshaw’s words, but I’ve edited a sentence from her TED...