I used to think that growing up meant giving up or getting over anything that couldn’t neatly fit into the box of adult expectations. I had this vision that at a certain point my life would just be free of messiness, stripped of big emotions. And as someone who always believed that I felt too much, that didn’t scare me. It was a relief to imagine that my needs and desires and loves and fears would shrink down in size. And when that didn’t happen - when I got to be 23, 24, 25 and I hadn’t become the adult I imagined I would be - I tried to force myself down to size. Mostly it didn’t work, and in the ways that it did work it made me miserable. So over the last few years I’ve been getting comfortable just as I am, and my life has benefited from it. What I’ve been thinking about lately, and what I’m trying to prioritize now, is the idea that adulthood should mean the freedom to shape your life into whatever you want it to look like rather than adhering to some pre-made format. I can put a cardboard cut out of one of my favorite characters in my living room and I can use my PTO to read a book as soon as it comes out and I can have big, big feelings about Harry Styles’ dancing and play Mario Kart with my sister and curse when she beats me and none of those things are childish. They’re adult things because I’m an adult who doesn’t need anyone else’s permission to have an astronomically joyful life. Fuck the haters, as the imagined youth would say.
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