I’ve been thinking a lot about something that Chelsee said in a recent episode of The Bi Pod. In a discussion about accountability, they used the language “showing up outside of your values” to describe when folks may need to be held accountable. I really love the sentiment of that language and the approach it invites. To me, it sounds like “I know you are fundamentally a caring and conscious person, and I know you do not want to cause harm, so let me support you in those goals.” It demonstrates care and trust for the person being held accountable, even when it's self accountability. I think this approach probably works best with people who do have generally good intentions and generally care about other people, so maybe it’s not a one size fits all. But, I think it’s a useful and empathetic approach that might make a lot of positive change much more possible.
In last week’s episode of The Bi Pod, we actually released a particularly bisexual episode of Chelsee’s solo project, Casually Obsessed, in the feed. In the episode, Chelsee talks to friend of the pod Julian Lejbman about the novel Red, White and Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston. You can listen to the episode wherever you listen to podcasts!
Casey McQuiston Is Writing the Queer Rom-Coms She’s Always Wanted to Read - If you’ve listened to last week’s episode, or if you’re generally interested in queer romcoms, we think you’ll love this interview with author Casey McQuiston.
What’s the DNA of Desire? How the “born this way” narrative of identity is holding the queer community back. - This is such a great read! We both tend to chafe against the "I don't have a choice!" framing of queerness, and really appreciated this story.
If I Can’t Have Love I Want Power - This new album by Halsey (a bisexual icon) dropped last week and we can’t stop listening! If you got to see the movie, we’re jealous and anxiously waiting to stream it.
This week, Christina shared an essay about #MeToo era television on her Substack, and Chelsee shared an essay about Buffy the Vampire Slayer in the Casually Obsessed newsletter.
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Chelsee & Christina