I’ve been thinking about something that I return to again and again (and again), which is the difference between capacity and potential. In some ways potential is limitless, but capacity never is. Even on my biggest capacity days, there are only so many hours and so much energy. As someone who wants so big and so widely, and who really defines themselves by doing, how tf do I exist in the world like that? This feels closely related to the idea that you can have everything you want, you just can’t necessarily have it all at the same time. I’m in a period of diminished capacity which of course means that I want everything now now now. Still I beat on, boat against the current, etc etc. (is this an appropriate time to say IYKYK?)
In last week’s episode, we defined the relationship! This is probably our favorite episode to date. We talked through a relationship smorgasbord and had conversations about what is and is not part of our relationship, as well as how we feel about terms like “romance” and “caregiving.” You can listen to Define The Relationship wherever you listen to podcasts!
2020 Broke All the Relationship Rules — Relationship Anarchy Could Mend It Back - Since we used a relationship anarchy tool in last week’s episode, we’re sharing some related resources with you this week! This article is a great primer for approaching all kinds of relationships with the tenets and tools of relationship anarchy.
What it’s Like Being a Relationship Anarchist - This interview gets into some of the nuances and choices that the interviewees navigate in their particular experience of relationship anarchy. There is something here for everyone, even if you’re not interested in practicing polyamory.
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Chelsee & Christina